Fireproof at the recommendation of a friend. She told me that she was doing something called the Love Dare from the the movie. Naturally, I was intrigued so as soon as I put baby girl down for a nap I was on Netflix searching for the movie. I really enjoyed the movie and with the New Year it prompted me to make some changes within myself and in my marriage.
After having baby girl our marriage has gone through some changes with adjusting to our new little person; specifically, with finding a balance between family time and us/couple time. In the movie the couple were no longer friends let alone lovers and were heading towards a divorce. Mr and I are still lovers and best friends; however, in order to fireproof our marriage we need to make some changes. I decided to start these changes with myself and take on the love dare. Since baby girl was born my main focus has been on her, caring, teaching and loving this child with all of my heart! This tends to have pros and cons because it means I have little or no time to dedicate to Mr and I can at times neglect my role and duties as his wife. He hasn't mentioned anything about it yet although he does give little hints when the laundry basket is overflowing.
I never shared my New Years goals but two of those goals are to be a better wife and to get closer to God. The Love Dare encompasses both of these goals! I have not shared my knowledge of the movie or even the love dare with Mr. My plan is to have us watch it together once my 40 days commences. He does occasionally view my blog but that's only if he sees the post in his facebook feed or if I ask him to read a post. So I decided to block him from my fan page for the next 40 days and simply fail to mention anything in regards to my blog in an attempt to fulfill this goal in private.
Day 1 of the Love Dare:
The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It’s
better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret.
I actually started Day 1 on Sunday. Brianna and I went to church and Mr. went to work. I felt great and in the spirit this morning. We came home and I prepared dinner and anxiously waited for Mr. to return so that I could set things in motion. After he settled in I realized that I was holding my tongue quite often. It's amazing how day 1 really puts things into perspective. It made me so much more aware and conscious of my thoughts, my actions and my words. I realized I was putting a lot more negative energy into the atmosphere than I cared for. I'm sure it has to do with being sleep deprived from a teething baby and at times feeling like a single parent because Mr's schedule is so busy. (I'll talk about that at a later date, but this is a very busy year for him) I do however realize that everything he is doing is for us but sometimes that reality does not help with my feelings or my exhaustion. Needless to say day 1 was a struggle but I got through it and successfully. Although negative thoughts crept into my mind I never allowed them to surface through my mouth.
I am currently on day 4. A recap of the past couple of days coming soon!
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love -Ephesians 4:2