Friday, January 18, 2013

Separation Anxiety

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From the title of today's post you would assume that little Miss Brianna is having separation anxiety, nope that's not the case, it's actually me! ("Lets rewind back to October 2011") I have been unemployed since October 2011 which was GREAT! A month after loosing my job I found out that I was pregnant... again. This pregnancy came 1 month after a miscarriage and was totally unexpected. Prior to this pregnancy we were using an ovulation stimulator called "Clomid" and although it was effective with helping me get pregnant it was ineffective in helping me to sustain a healthy pregnancy.  When I found out a month later that I was prego without the use of Clomid, I was thrilled. I wasn't as apprehensive as I normally was when the HPT showed a plus sign. Anyways, I really feel like losing my job was a blessing in disguise. It allowed me to take it easy and literally lay on the couch while this baby (Brianna) developed and was ready to come on out, and 9 months later... that she did!! ("Now, lets fast forward to the present")  Brianna recently turned 6 months and with that wonderful milestone I felt that it was time and I was ready to enter back into the workforce world!  Today after three interviews with this company, I was offered the job! My emotions have been going back and forth all day. Yay! Some much needed adult time and conversation...Oh No, I have to leave my baby for eight plus hours each day; Yay! I get to dress up in my pumps and pencil skirts again, Oh No, Brianna is about two forward knees from crawling and I'm going to miss it! Yay! I'm going to love the extra income, On No, by the time I get home it will just about be bed time.... Sigh...so there you have it. I am suffering from a little guilt and a lot of separation anxiety and I haven't even started the job yet.
"Although Brianna will be staying with a family member I believe that leaving her for eight plus hours on a daily basis will be the hardest challenge I will face as a working mommy"
This is going to be tougher than I thought. For all of you mommies who have gone back to work outside of your home, what made the transition less stressful for you? What steps did you put into place to give you piece of mind and comfort in knowing that going back to work is the right thing to do?

8 comments:

  1. Congrats on the new job!
    The transition was made easier when i knew i had enough milk pumped and frozen to last him thru the day.
    It was also made easier because the child care center was on the grounds of the hospital i worked at (literally 3 minutes away).
    We really needed the extra income. I enjoyed the time away because it made me miss the boys and value my time with them more. It is a welcome relief, actually. The fact that i LOVE their day care and teachers, and i know that they love my boys, makes it easy to leave them with them.

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  2. Congrats on the job! I know the feeling and I am only looking for work right now.

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  3. Congratulations on your new job. I will admit I go through this every morning when I drop my now second grader off at school. I just want her to be with me, it is only natural. I don't want to miss anything that happens in her life. But I will admit the time that I have a way from her is time well spent and in the afternoon, it just make that time more special for both of us.

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  4. Congratulation on your new job. This happened to me to both my kids whenever I had to go back to work. Leaving them with somebody you trust would help calm your fears and anxiety.

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  5. It's wonderful that you got a job!! Congrats! Going back to work after having my first was the hardest thing I ever had to do. It does get better though and you will have a harder time than she will for sure. I find that now that I work from home I actually spend less quality time with my kids (working on changing that) but having a job and being to have adult time is good for you and for her. Wishing you the best and good luck with the new job!!

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  6. Congratulations! I was fortunate to have my mom watch both of my children when I went back to work. I knew that they were being taken care by someone that loved them as much as I did. I knew my mom and dad would record everything that happened, or call me right away.

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  7. First, congratulations on getting a job and re-entering the workforce. I believe that losing my job was also a blessing in disguise because I truly get to be involved in everything that I love.

    I think the easier part for me was the fact that I was able to trust those who cared for them while I was gone. The daycare that my children attended was owned by my Head Start teacher and her family. And also, my close friend/sister would care for my children as well. I felt guilty, but I didn't have any other choice. Now that they are in school, it's much easier to deal with although I have my episodes from time to time.

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  8. Congrats on your job and new journeys of mommy, wife and employed :) Your separation anxiety is normal and all good mommies have it.. Just remember to be kind to yourself, take off the superwoman cape from time to time and balance..balance..balance. You are going to miss your lil one.. I did terribly when I reentered the workforce but having a special person "care" for your lil one will make this transition easier for all.. Less worries for you and you can rest assure that she is being loved, protected and nurtured in her own special way.. I was blessed my mother cared for our son when I went back into the workforce she was my special person of "care".. although I shed a few tears that first month.. I had no stress because he was and still is in great hands.. Blessings to you, your family and continued success :)

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